I think we can all agree that 2016 was, to say the least, a shit show. At least for me personally, it was. It wasn’t so hot on a global scale, either, in my opinion(but we can save that analysis for another blog post).
I don’t know if you, my dear reader, have ever delved much into numerology, but the belief exists that years cycle through in sets of 9. 9 years are notorious for being rough. Since they are the end of the cycle, a lot of doors close, things end, life changes. I found this particularly true in my own life this year. My grandmother passed away early in the year, my parents moved out of what I consider to be my childhood home (which they coincidentally moved into in 2005, the beginning of this number cycle), I had a short, albeit meaningful, relationship come to an end. It was a year of changes, most of them painful.
The fantastic thing about 9 years, however, is that they are laying the groundwork for the future. I went back to school this year, something that, if I’m being honest with myself and you, I never thought I would be able to do. I was able to take a trip that shifted my perception of my reality, and opened my eyes to the type of future I wanted to create for myself. I invested more deeply in those around me, and created some beautiful new friendships, and was able to let go of some that were no longer serving me. 2016, though incredibly painful, was fruitful, and I am grateful for what it taught me.
That being said, I AM PUMPED FOR 2017. This time of year, I find that we start focusing in on our resolutions, and we try to think of some big changes we can make that will drastically improve our lives. I thought, however, that instead of making ONE BIG CHANGE that I most likely will not be able to stick with through the first week of January, that I will instead make one small resolution a month, and take what I learned from it with me through the remainder of the year. So, without further ado, I present to you the mini-resolution for January…
NO SELF-DEPRECATING TALK
This may seem like a tiny-resolution, but I think the effects of it are going to change my life. As a 6’1, loud, outgoing woman, I make A LOT of self-deprecating jokes. And I’ll let you in on a secret-I do it because I’m insecure. About my height. About my weight. About my personality. About my voice. I could go on and on and on…but you get the point.
My talented, beautiful, smart, fun-loving best friend, former roommate, and part-time life coach Lauren gave me the book You are a BADASS for Christmas. In this unapologetically tough love-esque self-help guide, the author, Jen Sincero, stresses the importance of ditching the self-deprecating humor.
“Ripping on yourself gets old. Fast. Especially if it’s your shtick…What you tell yourself on a daily basis is more powerful than you know. Seemingly harmless jokes, over time, turn into seriously destructive beliefs. Our thoughts become our words, our words become our beliefs, our beliefs become our actions, our actions become our habits, and our habits become our realities.”
2017 is a new year, and January is the month of my birth, and I personally believe there is no better way to start the year off on the right foot than by showing myself more love than I ever have before.
I’ll be trying to tune in weekly to keep you all posted on how the mini-resolution is going. I’m hoping to do some creative marriage of blog posts, photos, and videos to convey what I’m learning, where I’m struggling, and how this is changing my year.
FINALLY. If you, or anyone you know would like to join me on this months life change, or any others planned for the year, PLEASE LET ME KNOW. I think this year is going to be incredible no matter what, and perhaps the only thing that would make it more incredible is if I had people to walk alongside of me in the journey!
It’s gonna be a good one, folks. Let’s do this.